Book Views: 4 Reason's Why You Should Read This Self-Help Book


If your anything like me, then your probably a skeptic when it come to Self-Help books. Anytime I've ever picked one up and started to read one, it always felt fake; like having that fake friend that's happy for you and congratulates you on your achievements but in reality, they could care less.

Well after reading Dr. Meg Jay's book; The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - and How to make the Most out of it Now, my speculations have changed. I've realized that not all self-help book are fake and are sub-par. So, here are 5 Reason Why You Should Read This Self-help Book.

1. You Need the Help, Sis.

Let's be honest, in the year of the Lord 2019 we are well aware that we truly can't get through life until we figure who we really are, and Dr. Meg Jay really outlines that in this book. The narrative of this book is told by Dr. Jay sharing multiple stories about her clients, and how most 20-30 somethings feel the same way about life, career and marriage. What I really like about the book is that she doesn't talk down to her clients, she lets them know that it's okay for them to feel the way they do but also lets them know that they cannot continue doing the same thing for the rest of your life. Truth be told, sometimes you need to hear it from someone that you're not related too or even close too that you need to get your act together and fix up your life.

2.Your Not Alone.

It is reported that 12% of Canadians reported the need for counselling. That ranges from struggling with a Mental Disorder to just wanting someone to talk too. From reading Dr. Jay's book, you can see that most of her clients were 20/30 somethings who just wanted someone to listen too and talk about their everyday problems with. Most of them were going through growing pains of transitioning from being a high school teenager to being an adult and working a 9 to 5. Even though High school was designed to prepare you for post-secondary school, it doesn't do a great job of preparing you for the adult world and all of the emotions that come with it. Dr. Jay's book has displayed that your not the only one who feels the way you do and that is OK.

3. Are You Being Honest with Yourself?

As a fellow 20 something-year-old, I will admit that I'm not 100% honest with myself. There are a lot of things that I know I should do but don't out of fear, especially being a Black Women, I'm afraid of the backlash I could get for doing certain things. Dr. Jay divides her book into 3 parts; Work, Love, and The Brain and The Body. Where she get's real and makes you question yourself a lot, " are you really putting in the effort you should be?", " do you really love this person, or do you just like having them around?" and " are you underselling yourself?" are some of the questions she asks and dissects with her clients. Some would say that your 20's is all about having the most fun you can without responsibilities, which I agree 100% on, but at what time do you stop being carefree and start thinking about your retirement plan and starting a family? She really puts it into perspective that yes, you can have as much fun as you want, but it's good to really sit and think about what you really want out of life and how to make it happen before it's too late.

4. It's a Good Read

Alongside all the help, encouragement and life guidance that Dr. Meg Jay offers in her book; The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - and How to make the Most out of it Now. The book is a really good read, the stories and lives from Dr.Jay's clients are so relatable that you genuinely become interested in them and want to know how she really helps them.

I rate this a 10/10